Bekwoh: Masa untuk Bersilaturrahmi

“Ni first time kite balik kampung!” kata Aiman kat pakcik makcik & tok ki yang baru dia kenali. Dia sangat seronok balik kampung. Last week, mama aiman’s cousin on her father’s side, got married. It was in Kg Tapang, Kota Bharu, Kelantan. Our journey started right after maghrib prayer from Kuantan, and we arrived around 3 o’clock in the morning in Kota Bharu. 


We seldom got a chance to go back to Kelantan, probably because the grandparents are no longer there. However, the uncles and aunties are still around. The first time we went there was around 2005. Of course I remember the faces of my uncles and aunties-in-laws, but I will need to recall what should I call them. Their title was not structured like on my side; for example we have pak long for the eldest, then mak ngah, and it goes down to the last one who normally we call mak su / pak su. But on her side, they called by name, unstructured; for example ayah lah, ayah mat, cik, sometimes they even call their granddad as ‘ayah’. It was confusing. Never mind, they are all families. 


Aiman was so happy he does not want to go home. He made some new friends, and particularly close to this twin, who happened to be his second cousin. 

Aiman's new best friend; Habibi and Hariri.

Looking at him playing around reminds me of my childhood years when Opah and Wan still around. It was the similar rumah kampong in Parit Buntar where we normally went back to during ‘balik kampung’ time. Satu kampong punya ronda. Main senapang batang bemban, main gasing, etc. Time raya always full with fire crackers and bunga api. Tapi semua itu sekadar kenangan. As far as I am concern, not one of my immediate uncles or aunties stays in a real kampong environment, where the houses got no fences, with chickens and goats around, and there’s no worries to wonder around. 


It was good to know you have families all around the country. I was happy to be introduced and meet new relatives, in-laws. And I really make myself at home. Aiman even got a chance to have a shower with ayaq telaga, cold and refreshing. First time of cause for him, and we enjoyed the water together very much. Cuma tak ori sebab pakai pam letrik, bukak paip je, bukan cedok dengan timba dan tali, macam kat rumah mak anjang saya dulu2. However, it does not suit the city girl I guess… ;p 


Wedding is always a good place and space to meet long lost families and friends. Bagi keluarga yang jauh, inilah masa untuk mendekatkan dan menyambung semula silaturahim sesama keluarga. Seharusnya acara sebegini jangan dipandang remeh. Betapa pentingnya menjaga hubungan silaturrahim sesama kerabat:

فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ ﴿٢٢﴾ أُولَـٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّـهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ (٢٣  

(Kalau kamu tidak mematuhi perintah) maka tidakkah kamu harus dibimbang dan dikhuatirkan - jika kamu dapat memegang kuasa - kamu akan melakukan kerosakan di muka bumi, dan memutuskan hubungan silaturrahim dengan kaum kerabat? (22) (Orang-orang yang melakukan perkara yang tersebut) merekalah yang dilaknat oleh Allah serta ditulikan pendengaran mereka, dan dibutakan penglihatannya (23) 

(Muhammad: 22-23)

Nabi Muhammad juga pernah bersabda yang bermaksud:


"Tidak masuk syurga orang yang memutuskan hubungan kekeluargaan (silaturrahim)"

(HR Muslim)

Seronok budak-budak ni tarik kambing. 3 tarik 1, tak bergerak pun kambing tu, hehe..

Puas dipujuk, menangis, “Nak balik kampong! Nak balik kampong!” I told him that we will come back again. And probably we should plan to visit Kg Tapang again...

Note: Benarlah, darjat, kuasa dan kekayaan boleh memutuskan silaturahim andainya iman tidak dijadikan panduan. Sepatutnya ia boleh menjadi penyebab semakin rapatnya hubungan. Jadi sesiapa yang rasanya tak percaya pada syurga dan neraka, pandang entenglah soal silaturahim. Tak payah pedulikan ibubapa dan adik beradik. Janganlah bercakap dengan saudara mara. Sombonglah dengan ipar duai. Buat tak heranlah dengan jiran. Allahu Allah. Minta dijauhkan sifat sebegini.